How To Give And Receive Compliments Assertively Worksheet Template (Page 2 of 10) in pdf

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ASSERT YOURSELF!

Compliments

Being able to give and accept compliments is another assertiveness skill and one which is

important in conversations and for building relationships and self esteem. As with all the

skills we have looked at in this series of modules there is often some unhelpful thinking

which stops us from being able to accept or give compliments. Or we may lack the skills

needed to help us with this skill. This module will help you identify and unhelpful thoughts

you have about compliments and also show you the steps to take to improve the way in

which you accept and give compliments.

Accepting Compliments

Some people find it extremely difficult to accept compliments. Understandably there are

times when it may feel uncomfortable; however, being able to accept other people’s positive

comments about our appearance, our work or some other aspect of ourselves is an

important assertiveness and social skill.

How do you Cope with Receiving Compliments?

There are a number of unassertive ways of responding to receiving compliments. These

include:

 Ignoring the compliment and changing the topic.

 Disagreeing with the compliment or some part of the compliment. For example:

“really, I don’t like the colour of the dress at all.”

 Dismissing or deflecting the compliment. For example “oh, this old thing, it’s nothing

special.”

 Being sarcastic. For example “Yeah right, it’s just gorgeous isn’t it?”

 Nervous laughing or smiling

 Self-criticism

Take a minute and think of the last time you were complimented. See if you can remember

how you reacted. Write this down.

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