Scriptures and Scriptural Thoughts on Discipline
First, let's look at what biblical love is not:
It is not love to raise a child who lacks self-discipline and is controlled by his or her desires, whether for
attention, food, material demands and entertainment, or seeking to gain something for nothing.
It is not love to allow a child to shrug off responsibility for his own actions and not to accept the
consequences of those actions. Nor is it love to allow your child to manipulate, control, or justify his or her
It is not love to carelessly or intentionally provoke anger in your children. "Fathers, do not exasperate your
children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord" (Ephesians 6:4).
Now let's look at what biblical love is and the proper way to train and discipline a child:
Love is actively training and teaching our children - diligently (Deuteronomy 6:6-7)! Put consistent and
loving effort into being an active parent, daily.
Love is providing for your children's physical needs. (2 Corinthians 12:14)
Love is applying faithful discipline (Proverbs 23:24; 29:17). Discipline with consistency.
Love does involve the promotion of biblical teaching to your children early (Psalm 34:11). The best
teachings are by example. Children imitate what they see more than they do what they're told.
Follow God's pattern as He disciplines us for our own good (Hebrews 12:5-11). Be steadfast in correction,
yet giving encouragement and praise where it is due.
Scriptures on Discipline:
If you are not disciplined (and everyone undergoes discipline), then you are illegitimate children and
not true sons. (Hebrews 12:8)
Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou
shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell. ( Proverbs 23:13-14)
Blessed is the man whom God corrects; so do not despise the discipline of the Almighty. For he
wounds, but he also binds up; he injures, but his hands also heal. (Job 5:17-18)
The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame. (Proverbs
Blows and wounds cleanse away evil, and beatings purge the inmost being. (Proverbs 20:30)
Blessed is the man you discipline, 0 LORD, the man you teach from your law. (Psalm 94:12)
We have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more
should we submit to the Father of our spirits and live! (Hebrews 12:9)
Our fathers disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines for our good, that
we may share in his holiness. (Hebrews 12:10)