LISTENING WITH UNDERSTANDING AND EMPATHY
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them. “
“The way of being with another person which is termed empathic…means temporarily living in their life,
moving abut in it delicately without making judgments……to be with another in this way means that for the
time being you lay aside the views and values you hold for yourself in order to enter the other’s world
without prejudice…a complex, demanding, strong yet subtle and gentle way of being.”
"The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing at the right place but to leave unsaid
the wrong thing at the tempting moment."
"It is the province of knowledge to speak and it is the privilege of wisdom to listen."
Oliver Wendell Holmes Sr.
"If you want to be listened to, you should put in time listening."
He who guards his mouth keeps his life, but he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.
“Dialogue is about people-listening to them, empathizing with them, and humbling ourselves for a
moment that we might understand a different view.”
Science & Spirit: Connecting Science, Religion and Life,
January/February 2001 p. 7)
“A unique relationship develops among team members who enter into dialogue regularly. They develop a
deep trust that cannot help but carry over to discussions. They develop a richer understanding of the
uniqueness of each person’s point of view.”
“Real dialogue is where two or more people become willing to suspend their certainty
in each other’s presence.”